Your Pain is Your Purpose.
Discover how I transformed my life
from the ground up – and more importantly…
How you can too.
Hi, I’m Oliver.
I help people build unshakeable confidence so they can walk through life with absolute conviction.
Growing up in the UK, I was raised mostly by my mother after my parents divorced. I did well in school, earned my Master’s and spent 4 years working as an engineer in London and on site in Angola.
On paper, I was “successful”. But inside I felt hollow, questioning – there has to be more to life than this?
Loneliness gnawed at me daily. I felt disconnected and hollow. But I buried it deeply. I tried so hard to be everyone’s friend but it only pushed me further away.
To rub salt in the wound, I had been single my whole life, and felt outcast because of it. I lived in fear. Scared to death of rejection and failure.
I was stuck living a life I didn’t want, so I hid my pain in addiction: video games, p*rnography, alcohol, drugs, and even exercise. My road bike kept me sane, but it couldn’t fill the deeper void inside me.
The Turning Point.
My head was all over the place. I was depressed and just existing day to day like a shell of a human being. Get up, go to work, go home, get up, go to work… Like I was stuck in an endless loop.
I remember taking way too many sick days from work. I couldn’t face myself, never mind the world. I remember a time where I didn’t leave my flat for a week after one particularly reckless night. Savage.
I kept it very well hidden, but paranoia and anxiety plagued me because of drug misuse and untreated wounds of the past. I was spiralling out of control, it was inevitable that I would eventually hit rock bottom.
I called my best friend. We spoke in depth about me quitting my job and going travelling, but I could never find the right time. There was always an excuse.
Soon, destiny would intervene and eventually, the time found me.
When I visited my brother in Australia, everything changed. He had matured more in six months of traveling than I had in four years of working in London. He had grown up. I was still a kid. It was a massive wake-up call.
Inspired, I took my newly acquired PADI Open Water certification and decided to leap into the unknown.
My Transformation Timeline
Embracing Adventure
Six months of travel gave me clarity and courage. I quit my job for good and pursued my passion for the ocean.
In two years I went from an Open Water Diver to an Instructor working in the Caribbean. It was one hell of a trip.
I finally felt alive – immersed in nature, adventure, and even my first girlfriend.
I had already grown a lot by this point. But, life had more lessons in store…
The Breakup That Changed Everything
After a two and a half year roller-coaster relationship, it exploded in a very traumatic breakup. It shattered the world I had built. I was lost, searching for meaning in the aftermath.
After the dust had settled, I discovered a book that changed my life: Atomic Habits by James Clear.
It was my lightbulb moment. It was the beginning of my self development journey.
Through many hours sitting with my thoughts, I learned to face my pain instead of running from it. My mind began opening up.
My outlook on life changed. As did I with it.
I quit drinking. I let go of gaming, p*rnography and other unhealthy distractions. Yoga, journalling and meditation became rituals for me.
I faced my deepest, darkest fears. And I came out the other side. It awoke something inside me. A fire. An inextinguishable light that would inspire me to keep moving forward.
Stepping into my Purpose.
All I ever wanted was to keep refining myself, pushing toward a better version, then a better one after that.
Until I learned the hard truth:
The happiness I had been chasing was never the goal. It was the journey itself. The highest highs, the lowest lows and everything in between.
I went through therapy. It left me running in circles. So I turned to coaching instead. It changed everything.
This is why I do what I do. Because I know firsthand what’s possible with the right guidance.
Not from someone who studied the fire.
From someone who walked through it.
Would you trust a doctor who doesn’t take their own medicine? Neither would I.
With deep experience in mindfulness and my no-fluff, no-BS style, I take an action-based approach to coaching – one that prioritises results, not just insight.
I use everything I’ve learned on my journey to guide you through yours. To help you break self-doubt and build real, unshakeable confidence – forged by standing in your fire, not running from it.
Why me?
I believe pain has a purpose. Every challenge you face holds the key to your growth, if you’re willing to unlock it.
I don’t just teach this. I live it.
Courage, combined with the right guidance, creates real results. I’m proof of that.
That’s why I became a coach, to share what actually works.
But this isn’t about me. It’s about you.
Your clarity. Your confidence. Your transformation.
If you’re ready to step into the life you want – I’m ready to guide you.
I look forward to welcoming you aboard.
What My Clients Say
“I’ve had a life coach before so I know how powerful coaching can be but Oliver surpassed my expectations. He absolutely delivered for me.”
“Before speaking with Oliver, I needed a change. Working with him opened my eyes and allowed me to focus on what was right for me.”
“His credibility comes from transforming his own life. He is an exceptional active listener and gets beyond the surface to root causes.”
Take the First Step Today
You don’t have to face this journey alone.
I’ve been where you are, and I will help you discover your true potential.
If you want to skip the frustration, pain and uncertainty…
Let’s walk together.